The Body Language of Attraction

I probably don't need to list the attraction signals that you find in relationship books. The reason is that if a woman is sticking around talking to you and being pleasant, obviously she doesn't dislike you!

But it's always possible that she likes you only as a friend (though unlikely as long as you keep pushing the interaction forward), so my advice is to learn and memorize the following list that I've come up with, and then try to forget it.

This is because you'll paralyze yourself during conversations if you start analyzing small details such as how forcefully she twirls her hair around her fingers.

Once you get enough experience with women, you'll recognize attraction signals instinctively. The following list of 10 attraction body language signals is in no particular order...

1. She compliments you on just about anything.

2. She feels nervous around you. Look for signs of nervousness such as her muscles twitching.

3. She teases you playfully.

4. She makes an effort to tell you how much she loves the same things you like.

5. She talks about things you guys can do in the future. "You like vintage clothing stores too?" she might say, "We should go sometime!" By the way, this is also something you should bring up with girls. Don't make it too serious though. Make it like you're being playful. "We could go shopping for the most pimp looking purple tights on 5th Avenue!" (Say anything playfully absurd that the two of you could do in the future. Keep it verbally non-sexual of course.)

6. When her legs are crossed, look at the foot of her top leg. If it is pointed toward you, it is a sign you've got her full attention.

7. She makes an effort to keep the conversation going when it lulls. (Every once in awhile you can even test her attraction by purposely allowing the conversation to pause on your end. Then see if she restarts the conversation.)

8. She touches her face. When a person touches his or her face, it's a sign that they're thinking about something. So in order to be sure that she's thinking good thoughts, look for this signal to be combined with others from this list.

9. She gazes into your eyes and holds her gaze.

10. She mirrors you. (Being passive by nature, women will follow the lead of a man they feel attracted to.) Watch to see whether she...

• Has a similar posture to yours.
• Adjusts the volume of her voice to match yours.
• Adjusts the rate of her voice to match yours.
• Matches the pace of your breathing.
• Laughs when you laugh.